Fear of failure, fear of success, being self-destructive, sabotage. I mean, another part of that is that one does not feel worthy. So that you're not entitled to success. And so you become self-destructive. I mean it's no different than what people eat and drink do to themselves. If I said to them, “Do you know that's no good for you?”... “Yes, I know that's no good for you.” “Why are you doing it?” ... “Well, what do I deserve? Who am I?” So it's okay to destroy yourself.
Stephen Covey
Feedback is not the breakfast of champions. Vision is. Feedback is the lunch of champions. Self correction the dinner. You don't ever build your life on the feedback of breakfast, otherwise you're constantly looking around for your definition of yourself. But you have to, once you've established a sense of who you are and what you're about. Now you want to be effective. So get feedback. You can learn. Be more effective. Then correct. People who get feedback and don't correct are doomed to repeat the mistakes of the past.
Bernie Siegel
One lady now, I met her the other day, said she realized in the midst of her illness she's in God's hands. So whenever she gets into fear she puts her hand out and the fear disappears, because she remembers God's hand.
And yeah, we each need to build these things in, so that you can have little periods in the day where you stop and refocus, say a prayer, whatever it may be that's meaningful to you, so it can get you back into freedom from fear, into the moment and living the person that you want to be. And you have a lifetime... when somebody asks you how long you have to live, answer a lifetime. For some it may be six years, but they complete their life and they know who they are when they die. Others it may be 96, and they're still rehearsing.
And there are other stories too. You go into a cave and you see a beautiful pearl, but there's a dragon sitting over it, and you don't want it to kill you, so you leave. And you come back when you are an old man, and you walk into the cave, and there's the pearl. And the dragon is [tiny]. So you pick it up and take it home to your family. And you say, how can you make that happen for other people? It has to happen inside you, that's all I can tell you, that you stop being afraid, and that you can achieve the pearl.
David Whyte
"The price of our vitality, is the sum of all our fears." And that when you have to go through the doorway of your own life, everything is at stake. And when I say everything, you suddenly realize that because you are at last attempting the one part of the pattern that is truly your own, you realize that you can also lose it. It's like finding your true lover or your true partner. The poignancy of actually finding that person is also the experience of potential loss, that it can all go, disappear. You can lose it. The same thing with our own lives. For many of us it can be just too painful.
Tell me about despair, yours, and I will tell you mine. Tell me about despair, yours, and I will tell you mine. But meanwhile the world goes on. Meanwhile the sun and the soft pedals of rain are moving across the landscape, over the prairies, the deep trees, the mountains, and the rivers. Meanwhile the wild geese, high in the clear blue air, are heading home again. Whoever you are, no matter how lonely, no matter how lonely, whoever you are, no matter how lonely, the world offers itself to your imagination. Calls to you like the wild geese, harsh and exciting. Over and over again. Announcing your place in the family of things.
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