"I call romantic love a taste of the elixir of our being. It is a taste of what we would really feel and taste all the time if we weren't repressed, if some parts of us weren’t shut down, shut off as a result of social conditioning. So romantic love gives us that taste of what it's like to be fully alive."

"Sex gets really elevated because its a carrier of so many meanings. From am I loved, am I feeling vitally alive, are my orgasms full and clear and do they help me restore the pulsation that belongs to my being? And of course none of this is going on consciously. We're experiencing that, but sex then becomes the carrier of both being cared for, being nurtured, having my childhood needs met, restoring my cosmic connection. It's too big a job for sex to carry."