STEPHEN COVEY
I don't know if I can put my finger on the most fundamental fear, but I really believe a common one is, “How well do I stack up with others, what my position is, where am I in the pecking order, how do I compare to other people?” It's a kind of ego need that's very prideful. It feels very superior in some settings, and maybe inferior in other settings, but when people grow up with this shame-based identity, what I call comparison-based identity, where often shame or comparison's emotional rewards and punishments are attached to those comparisons. They gradually lose a sense of themself, and who they are. Their own identity, their own soul, their own worth, their own preciousness.
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