"To love another person is to see the face of God" - Victor Hugo

BARBARA DE ANGELIS

The real secret of an incredible relationship has absolutely nothing to do with the other person. It has to do with you. You can only love as much as your heart is capable of loving.

THOMAS MOORE

Part of our moralism about sex .. you know we don't devolve the arts of sex very well. We think flirting has to always end up in a bedroom somewhere. Oh, why not just be flirtatious people. Why not be, you know, at any age enjoy our sexuality?

ERICA JONG

Let's just admit that anything that women do that involves sexuality and pleasure, they get criticized for. And we have a very pleasure hating culture. But it allows more pleasure to men than to women. I think it's very often unconscious. People don't even know that they live in a pleasure-hating culture, which very much dumps on women for seeking any kind of pleasure. We have to change this.

MYSTERIES OF ATTRACTION

"When you loved me I gave you the whole sun and stars to play with. I gave you eternity in a single moment" George Bernard Shaw


BARBARA DE ANGELIS

Here's what I understand about why we attract certain people into our lives, and this is essential to understand, so you can understand your own love life, your own relationship history. And that is that number one it is no accident that certain people come into our lives. They come in for a reason. And they don't come in to drive us crazy. They don't come in to punish us. They don't come in because we had bad luck and when they were giving out partners we must have been at the end of the line. They come in truly to teach us, they come in to teach us what we need to learn about love, about loving ourselves more, about loving someone else more. Here's a perfect example.

JOHN GRAY

I think that we're mysteriously attracted to people that we're supposed to be attracted to. I mean if we're all healthy people, we'd naturally be attracted to food that was good for us. That satisfied basic healthy needs. Not necessarily unfulfilled needs in childhood. But just what do I need? In counselling single women I come across a very common issue which is why is it that I keep getting involved with men who are not capable of giving me the love I need?

HARVILLE HENDRIX

And connected to that satisfaction of those needs is also a feeling that in getting those needs met we're going to feel fully alive, we're going to feel connected, we're going to feel whole and we're going to feel a sense of really pulsating vitality. Vital aliveness. When we fall in love that's the kind of unconscious yearning that's there. I want to feel like we belong together, I want to feel like we're one.

AUTHENTIC COMMITTMENT

"I love thee to the depth and breath and height my soul can reach"
Elizabeth Browning

BARBARA DE ANGELIS

Many times I hear women complain, I want a man to be real with me, I want him to be authentic, I just want him to not pretend and get down to the nitty gritty. But, the challenge that I offer to women is to ask yourself if you are being real with yourself and with him twenty four hours a day.

Secretly we fear that if we are our true authentic selves, they won't like it, they won't be able to handle it and they'll leave. That may happen. But that's a risk you have to risk. Because if you wait until you think it's safe enough, you wait forever. It's never safe to boldly be yourself.

JOHN GRAY

Single women have come to me and they've told me the same story every time and they ask, why doesn't a man commit? Why doesn't he make the commitment?


MARRIAGE AS A SPIRITUAL PATH

"Conscious relationships...carry with them a sense of inner freedom and a sense of love that is free to act" Rob Lehman

MARIANNE WILIAMSON

The passion for life that we all seek is nothing that we get from someone else. It's nothing that we get from life. It stems from what we give to life.

HARVILLE HENDRIX

The spiritual quality, the spiritual potential in a relationship is really fascinating, it's really very powerful.


TRUE LOVE

"Then the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom". - Anais Nin

JOHN GRAY

One of the hardest challenges for women to make relationships work, is to know that sometimes you have to ask a man for support. Because if she doesn't understand that men are from Mars, she feels like what, am I having to beg for support? Why doesn't he automatically give it to me? Can't he see I'm in distress? Why doesn't he just walk over here, wrap his arms around me and just hold me? That's what I need.

THOMAS MOORE

Somehow I think we have to open ourselves to the realization that our own longing to love and to be loved will never be fully satisfied, and probably shouldn't be as long as we are open to its continuing exploration and...we are on a way toward fulfilling our love.