"One of the things that has dominated our way of thinking about ourselves in the Western world is that we believe that there's only one self inside of us. And I think that's far too simple. I think there are many different selves inside every individual."

"One of the great travesties that can happen in a friendship is that when you come towards your friend and you project onto them your own need for complete fulfillment, and you said this person is going to be the answer to my life's quest, and then you focus the full brunt of your longing on them, well there's nothing surer than you're going to destroy the friendship in that way. Because no one individual, no matter how beautiful, no matter how competent, no matter how gifted, that can ever stand in the place of your longing and still it. .No one is the answer to anyone else's longing."