When you can find the love which is eternal, then you're soulmates. That's what a soulmate is - finding that love which is lasting. And yet you can be with your soulmate and not be able to recognise them because you haven't learned some of the basic skills to reconnect with your love. Because love has a tendency to be there and disappear and be there and disappear and there's things we can do to bring it back.
Barbara DeAngelis
Our search for the great relationship or the great sex or the hot affair is really something that represents the seeking I think we have for a union, for that feeling I am not separate. I am connected to something greater. And we start out perhaps thinking that something greater is a great guy or a great woman but the truth is that the real connection we're looking for is on the inside and I think the search for love through history has truly been an expression of our spiritual quest and when we begin to find that nectar of love inside our own ability to love, our own source of love, then I think we really get close to a spiritual oneness.
Deepak Chopra
Those that we attract and those that we are attracted to are both mirrors of our own being. And similarly, those that we are repelled by are also reflections of our own self. Those we're attracted to and those that we are repelled by are both mirrors of our own self, least that's the spiritual underpinning of relationship. And when we understand that, then relationship becomes an excellent tool for the evolution of our own consciousness.
John O'Donohue
One of the great travesties that can happen in a friendship is that when you come towards your friend and you project onto them your own need for complete fulfilment and you say, “This person is going to be the answer to my life's quest”, and then you focus the full brunt of your longing on them ... there's nothing surer than that you're going to destroy the friendship in that way. Because no one individual, no matter how beautiful, no matter how competent, no matter how gifted, can ever stand in the place of your longing and still it. No one is the answer to anyone else's longing.
So part of the kind of balance of a great passionate friendship is to be able to see that there is a wild openness to it that needs the eternal embrace around it, in order for the longing to be held alive. Because longing that's held alive quickens everything. It's like having the energy of springtime inside the old clay of the heart.
Barbara DeAngelis
And a relationship then becomes more of a play between our fullness and someone else's fullness, as opposed to this feeling of, “I'm going to meet you and I have this empty well and I've been just wanting someone to fill it up.” That's really not love. That's something else. That's dependence. But real love is feeling your own fullness.
Seeing someone else as in a sense, just a different reflection of that same oneness. The ancient Indians call it Shiva and Shakti, the two primal forces in the universe, that's what I think we're all thinking. We may not call it that. We may not have the words for that. But we're really looking for union between ourselves and the universe so that we know our relationship to why we're here and what we're supposed to be doing.
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